Internet Dating - My Story
Let's talk about match.com, you hear the stories, everyone's got one I met my husband there..or someone's cousin did or someone else's best friends sister or... blah blah blah. So its become socially acceptable to date online and more and more people are jumping into the internet dating pool. And there's plenty to learn about this new style of dating.
I was online dating way back in 1998 when this was still a completely taboo subject and no one wanted to admit they were doing it. I dated online all the way thru 2004 when I met my husband (not from online dating). Recently divorced, I thought I'd go back and give internet dating another try. So I signed up for Match.com for a month so see what changed, what stayed the same and just the general state of affairs in Internet Dating.
Internet Dating - Safety Precautions
First off, lets remember these are strangers. No matter how much you email, im, chat or talk you still don't know them very well. Take some basic precautions. Meet in public places, don't take them back to your house and don't go back to theirs. I have very good intuition and so have had no real problems personally. And there are plenty of horror stories out there so don't be one of them.
Internet Dating - Profile Writing Tips for Men
Don't talk about how uncomfortable you are doing this and how you don't know what to say. Don't tell us what your friends say. Have the confidence to just be yourself, know yourself and put it out there. Its much easier for a woman to respect you if you have self confidence.
Internet Dating - Profile Writing Tips for Women
Men are visual. Pictures, Pictures, PICTURES!!! If you are uncomfortable with this just don't date online. Be comfortable being you. Full body shots are a necessity. It doesn't do you any good for a man to like your face then show up to meet you and find you aren't his type. Putting up recent accurate pictures (and the more the merrier) reduces the amount of face to face rejection you will have to deal with.
Internet Dating - Profile Writing Tips for Men and Women
* Be yourself. Its really easy to just click and keep going when your profile sounds like everyone else's. Got a unique hobby, a favorite TV show or something you just love? Talk about it. It will help catch attention and have people more interested in getting to know you.
* Be honest about what you are looking for - do you want to date, meet the love of your life, just have some fun? Let people know where you want to take it.
* Don't write a novel. Yes we all have alot of wants and needs and things to share about ourselves. And that's what dating is for...you dont have to cram it all into your profile.
* Do answer the questions. Yes it does matter, yes people do want to read your answers. Take the time to give at least some fair representation of yourself.
* Have fun!
Keep in mind that when you take it to the real world there will be a whole new dynamic to take in. There will be adjusting. There will be plenty of people you do not connect with. There are no guarantees and it may take awhile. So please, don't take yourself or the process too seriously. Relax, enjoy, have fun and just take it easy. It will all work out in the end. Happy Dating!
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